[proofplan]
We use each universal property once to construct maps in opposite directions. The universal property of $(T,\tau)$ applied to $\tau'$ gives a unique $R$-[linear map](/page/Linear%20Map) $\varphi: T \to T'$, and the universal property of $(T',\tau')$ applied to $\tau$ gives a unique $R$-linear map $\psi: T' \to T$. We then compare the composites $\psi \circ \varphi$ and $\varphi \circ \psi$ with the relevant identity maps by checking that they agree after precomposition with the universal bilinear maps. Uniqueness in the two universal properties forces the composites to be identities, so $\varphi$ is an isomorphism; the same uniqueness also proves that no other compatible isomorphism can exist.
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[step:Construct the comparison map from $T$ to $T'$]
Since $\tau': M \times N \to T'$ is an $R$-bilinear map and $(T,\tau)$ satisfies the universal property for $R$-bilinear maps out of $M \times N$, there exists a unique $R$-linear map
\begin{align*}
\varphi: T &\to T'
\end{align*}
such that
\begin{align*}
\varphi \circ \tau = \tau'.
\end{align*}
[guided]
The pair $(T,\tau)$ is universal among $R$-bilinear maps out of $M \times N$. To use this property, we must provide a target $R$-module and an $R$-bilinear map from $M \times N$ to that target.
Here the target $R$-module is $T'$, and the relevant $R$-bilinear map is
\begin{align*}
\tau': M \times N &\to T'.
\end{align*}
By the universal property of $(T,\tau)$, there is a unique $R$-linear map
\begin{align*}
\varphi: T &\to T'
\end{align*}
making the factorisation through $\tau$ agree with $\tau'$, namely
\begin{align*}
\varphi \circ \tau = \tau'.
\end{align*}
This map $\varphi$ is the only possible candidate for an isomorphism compatible with the two tensor-product structure maps, because any such compatible map must satisfy exactly this equation.
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[/step]
[step:Construct the comparison map from $T'$ to $T$]
Since $\tau: M \times N \to T$ is an $R$-bilinear map and $(T',\tau')$ satisfies the universal property for $R$-bilinear maps out of $M \times N$, there exists a unique $R$-linear map
\begin{align*}
\psi: T' &\to T
\end{align*}
such that
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \tau' = \tau.
\end{align*}
[guided]
We now apply the same argument with the roles of the two universal pairs reversed. The target $R$-module is $T$, and the $R$-bilinear map from $M \times N$ to this target is
\begin{align*}
\tau: M \times N &\to T.
\end{align*}
Since $(T',\tau')$ has the universal property, this bilinear map factors uniquely through $\tau'$. Therefore there exists a unique $R$-linear map
\begin{align*}
\psi: T' &\to T
\end{align*}
such that
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \tau' = \tau.
\end{align*}
This gives the comparison map in the reverse direction.
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[/step]
[step:Show that the composite on $T$ is the identity]
The composite
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \varphi: T &\to T
\end{align*}
is $R$-linear because it is a composite of $R$-linear maps. Moreover,
\begin{align*}
(\psi \circ \varphi) \circ \tau
&= \psi \circ (\varphi \circ \tau) \\
&= \psi \circ \tau' \\
&= \tau.
\end{align*}
The identity map
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_T: T &\to T
\end{align*}
is also $R$-linear and satisfies
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_T \circ \tau = \tau.
\end{align*}
By the uniqueness part of the universal property of $(T,\tau)$ applied to the bilinear map $\tau: M \times N \to T$, we conclude that
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \varphi = \operatorname{id}_T.
\end{align*}
[guided]
To prove that $\varphi$ is invertible, we first show that $\psi$ is a left inverse of $\varphi$. The map
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \varphi: T &\to T
\end{align*}
is $R$-linear because both $\varphi$ and $\psi$ are $R$-linear. We compare it with $\operatorname{id}_T$ by precomposing both maps with the universal bilinear map $\tau$.
Using associativity of composition and the defining equations for $\varphi$ and $\psi$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
(\psi \circ \varphi) \circ \tau
&= \psi \circ (\varphi \circ \tau) \\
&= \psi \circ \tau' \\
&= \tau.
\end{align*}
The identity map
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_T: T &\to T
\end{align*}
is $R$-linear and satisfies
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_T \circ \tau = \tau.
\end{align*}
Thus both $\psi \circ \varphi$ and $\operatorname{id}_T$ are $R$-linear maps from $T$ to $T$ whose compositions with $\tau$ equal the same bilinear map $\tau: M \times N \to T$. The uniqueness clause in the universal property of $(T,\tau)$ therefore forces
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \varphi = \operatorname{id}_T.
\end{align*}
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[/step]
[step:Show that the composite on $T'$ is the identity]
The composite
\begin{align*}
\varphi \circ \psi: T' &\to T'
\end{align*}
is $R$-linear because it is a composite of $R$-linear maps. Moreover,
\begin{align*}
(\varphi \circ \psi) \circ \tau'
&= \varphi \circ (\psi \circ \tau') \\
&= \varphi \circ \tau \\
&= \tau'.
\end{align*}
The identity map
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_{T'}: T' &\to T'
\end{align*}
is also $R$-linear and satisfies
\begin{align*}
\operatorname{id}_{T'} \circ \tau' = \tau'.
\end{align*}
By the uniqueness part of the universal property of $(T',\tau')$ applied to the bilinear map $\tau': M \times N \to T'$, we conclude that
\begin{align*}
\varphi \circ \psi = \operatorname{id}_{T'}.
\end{align*}
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[step:Conclude that the compatible isomorphism is unique]
The identities
\begin{align*}
\psi \circ \varphi = \operatorname{id}_T,
\qquad
\varphi \circ \psi = \operatorname{id}_{T'}
\end{align*}
show that $\varphi$ is an $R$-module isomorphism with inverse $\psi$. By construction,
\begin{align*}
\varphi \circ \tau = \tau'.
\end{align*}
It remains to prove uniqueness among compatible isomorphisms. Let
\begin{align*}
\theta: T &\to T'
\end{align*}
be an $R$-module isomorphism satisfying
\begin{align*}
\theta \circ \tau = \tau'.
\end{align*}
Then $\theta$ is an $R$-linear map from $T$ to $T'$ with the same compatibility equation as $\varphi$. By the uniqueness part of the universal property of $(T,\tau)$ applied to $\tau': M \times N \to T'$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
\theta = \varphi.
\end{align*}
Hence $\varphi$ is the unique $R$-module isomorphism $T \to T'$ satisfying $\varphi \circ \tau = \tau'$.
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