[proofplan]
We choose the diagonal matrix $D$ so that multiplication by $D$ cancels the denominator in each row of the Cartan matrix. With this choice, $DA$ becomes exactly the Gram matrix of the ordered simple roots with respect to the Euclidean inner product on $V$. Symmetry follows from symmetry of the inner product, and positive definiteness follows because the simple roots are linearly independent.
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[step:Choose the diagonal symmetrising matrix from the root lengths]
Define the diagonal matrix $D = (d_{ij}) \in \mathbb{R}^{n \times n}$ by
\begin{align*}
d_{ij} =
\begin{cases}
\frac{(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)}{2}, & i=j,\\
0, & i \neq j.
\end{cases}
\end{align*}
Since each root $\alpha_i$ is nonzero and $(\cdot,\cdot)$ is a Euclidean inner product, we have $(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)>0$ for every $1 \leq i \leq n$. Hence every diagonal entry of $D$ is a positive real number.
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[step:Identify $DA$ with the Gram matrix of the simple roots]
For $1 \leq i,j \leq n$, the $(i,j)$-entry of $DA$ is
\begin{align*}
(DA)_{ij}
&= d_{ii}a_{ij} \\
&= \frac{(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)}{2}\frac{2(\alpha_i,\alpha_j)}{(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)} \\
&= (\alpha_i,\alpha_j).
\end{align*}
Thus $DA$ is the Gram matrix $G = (g_{ij}) \in \mathbb{R}^{n \times n}$ of the ordered simple roots, where
\begin{align*}
g_{ij} = (\alpha_i,\alpha_j).
\end{align*}
Since the Euclidean inner product is symmetric, $g_{ij}=g_{ji}$ for all $i,j$, so $DA=G$ is symmetric.
[guided]
The purpose of the diagonal matrix $D$ is to multiply the $i$th row of $A$ by the positive scalar $(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)/2$. This is exactly the scalar needed to cancel the denominator in the definition of the Cartan matrix. For every pair of indices $1 \leq i,j \leq n$, we compute
\begin{align*}
(DA)_{ij}
&= d_{ii}a_{ij} \\
&= \frac{(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)}{2}\frac{2(\alpha_i,\alpha_j)}{(\alpha_i,\alpha_i)} \\
&= (\alpha_i,\alpha_j).
\end{align*}
Therefore $DA$ is not merely symmetric by construction; it is the Gram matrix of the vectors $\alpha_1,\dots,\alpha_n$. The symmetry is then inherited from the inner product:
\begin{align*}
(DA)_{ij} = (\alpha_i,\alpha_j) = (\alpha_j,\alpha_i) = (DA)_{ji}.
\end{align*}
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[step:Prove positive definiteness using linear independence of the simple roots]
Let $c=(c_1,\dots,c_n) \in \mathbb{R}^n$ be nonzero. Define the vector $\beta \in V$ by
\begin{align*}
\beta = \sum_{i=1}^{n} c_i\alpha_i.
\end{align*}
The simple roots $\alpha_1,\dots,\alpha_n$ are linearly independent, so $\beta \neq 0$. Using the Gram matrix identity from the previous step, we obtain
\begin{align*}
c^\top(DA)c
&= \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_i(DA)_{ij}c_j \\
&= \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_i(\alpha_i,\alpha_j)c_j \\
&= \left(\sum_{i=1}^{n} c_i\alpha_i,\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_j\alpha_j\right) \\
&= (\beta,\beta).
\end{align*}
Since $(\cdot,\cdot)$ is positive definite and $\beta \neq 0$, we have $(\beta,\beta)>0$. Hence $c^\top(DA)c>0$ for every nonzero $c \in \mathbb{R}^n$, so $DA$ is positive definite.
[guided]
To prove that a real symmetric matrix is positive definite, we must show that its quadratic form is positive on every nonzero vector. Let $c=(c_1,\dots,c_n) \in \mathbb{R}^n$ be nonzero, and form the corresponding linear combination of simple roots:
\begin{align*}
\beta = \sum_{i=1}^{n} c_i\alpha_i \in V.
\end{align*}
The simple roots are linearly independent, so the coefficient vector $c \neq 0$ implies that this linear combination is not the zero vector. Thus $\beta \neq 0$.
Now evaluate the quadratic form of $DA$. Since the previous step identified $(DA)_{ij}$ with $(\alpha_i,\alpha_j)$, we have
\begin{align*}
c^\top(DA)c
&= \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_i(DA)_{ij}c_j \\
&= \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_i(\alpha_i,\alpha_j)c_j \\
&= \left(\sum_{i=1}^{n} c_i\alpha_i,\sum_{j=1}^{n} c_j\alpha_j\right) \\
&= (\beta,\beta).
\end{align*}
The final expression is strictly positive because $(\cdot,\cdot)$ is a Euclidean inner product and $\beta$ is nonzero. Therefore
\begin{align*}
c^\top(DA)c > 0
\end{align*}
for every nonzero $c \in \mathbb{R}^n$, which is precisely positive definiteness of $DA$.
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[step:Conclude symmetrisability and positive definiteness]
The diagonal matrix $D$ has positive real diagonal entries, and the matrix $DA$ is symmetric positive definite. Therefore the Cartan matrix $A$ is symmetrisable by a positive diagonal matrix, with symmetrisation $DA$ positive definite.
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