[example: Why Normality Is the Right Test]
Let $G=S_3$, and let $H=\{e,(12)\}$. The subgroup $H$ has order $2$, since it contains exactly the identity and the transposition $(12)$. To test normality, conjugate its nonidentity element by $(123)$. Since $(123)^{-1}=(132)$, we compute
\begin{align*}
(123)(12)(123)^{-1}=(123)(12)(132)=(23).
\end{align*}
The result $(23)$ is not in $H$, so $H$ is not stable under conjugation by elements of $S_3$. Thus $H$ is not normal in $S_3$. Equivalently, the left and right cosets by $(123)$ do not match:
\begin{align*}
(123)H=\{(123),(123)(12)\}=\{(123),(13)\}.
\end{align*}
\begin{align*}
H(123)=\{(123),(12)(123)\}=\{(123),(23)\}.
\end{align*}
Because these cosets are different, $H$ cannot be used as the subgroup collapsed in a [quotient group](/theorems/790) $S_3/H$.
By contrast, $A_3=\{e,(123),(132)\}$ is normal in $S_3$. Indeed, for any $\sigma\in S_3$,
\begin{align*}
\sigma(123)\sigma^{-1}=(\sigma(1)\ \sigma(2)\ \sigma(3)),
\end{align*}
which is either $(123)$ or $(132)$, and the same statement holds for the inverse cycle $(132)$. Hence conjugation by every element of $S_3$ sends elements of $A_3$ back into $A_3$, so $A_3\trianglelefteq S_3$. The quotient has exactly two cosets,
\begin{align*}
A_3=\{e,(123),(132)\}
\end{align*}
and
\begin{align*}
(12)A_3=\{(12),(23),(13)\},
\end{align*}
so $|S_3/A_3|=2$. This is why arbitrary subgroups do not measure quotient decomposability: quotient groups come from normal subgroups, because normality is precisely the condition that makes coset multiplication well-defined.
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