[guided]Fix $K$ with $|K| = q-1$ and fix $j,k \in \{1,\dots,n\}$. We want to compare the divergence inner product
\begin{align*}
(\partial_{z_j} u_{jK}, \partial_{z_k} u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}
\end{align*}
with the cross inner product
\begin{align*}
(\partial_{\bar z_j} u_{kK}, \partial_{\bar z_k} u_{jK})_{L^2(\Omega)}.
\end{align*}
The mechanism is two integrations by parts, with the commutation of mixed Wirtinger derivatives used between them.
Apply the first integration-by-parts identity from Step 1 with $f = u_{jK}$ and $g = \partial_{z_k}u_{kK}$. The functions are smooth on $\overline\Omega$, so the identity applies. We obtain
\begin{align*}
(\partial_{z_j} u_{jK}, \partial_{z_k} u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}
&= -(u_{jK}, \partial_{\bar z_j}\partial_{z_k}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)} \\
&\quad + \int_{\partial\Omega} u_{jK}\,\overline{\partial_{z_k}u_{kK}}\,\frac{\partial\rho}{\partial z_j}\,dS_\rho.
\end{align*}
Since $u_{kK} \in C^\infty(\overline\Omega;\mathbb{C})$, the real partial derivatives commute, and therefore the Wirtinger derivatives commute:
\begin{align*}
\partial_{\bar z_j}\partial_{z_k}u_{kK} = \partial_{z_k}\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK}.
\end{align*}
Thus the remaining volume term is
\begin{align*}
(u_{jK}, \partial_{z_k}\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}.
\end{align*}
Now use the rearranged second integration-by-parts identity from Step 1,
\begin{align*}
(f,\partial_{z_k}g)_{L^2(\Omega)} = -(\partial_{\bar z_k}f,g)_{L^2(\Omega)} + \int_{\partial\Omega} f\,\bar g\,\frac{\partial\rho}{\partial\bar z_k}\,dS_\rho,
\end{align*}
with $f = u_{jK}$ and $g = \partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK}$. This gives
\begin{align*}
(u_{jK}, \partial_{z_k}\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}
&= -(\partial_{\bar z_k}u_{jK}, \partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)} \\
&\quad + \int_{\partial\Omega} u_{jK}\,\overline{\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK}}\,\frac{\partial\rho}{\partial\bar z_k}\,dS_\rho.
\end{align*}
Define the two boundary terms
\begin{align*}
B_{j,k,K}^{(1)} &:= \int_{\partial\Omega} u_{jK}\,\overline{\partial_{z_k}u_{kK}}\,\frac{\partial\rho}{\partial z_j}\,dS_\rho, \\
B_{j,k,K}^{(2)} &:= \int_{\partial\Omega} u_{jK}\,\overline{\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK}}\,\frac{\partial\rho}{\partial\bar z_k}\,dS_\rho.
\end{align*}
Substituting the second integration-by-parts formula into the first one yields
\begin{align*}
(\partial_{z_j} u_{jK}, \partial_{z_k} u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}
= (\partial_{\bar z_k}u_{jK}, \partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)} + B_{j,k,K}^{(1)} - B_{j,k,K}^{(2)}.
\end{align*}
This is the exact point where the volume terms prepare to cancel: after summing over $j$ and $k$, the finite relabeling $(j,k) \mapsto (k,j)$ gives
\begin{align*}
\sum_{j,k=1}^n(\partial_{\bar z_k}u_{jK}, \partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}
= \sum_{j,k=1}^n(\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK}, \partial_{\bar z_k}u_{jK})_{L^2(\Omega)}.
\end{align*}
Therefore, in the quantity
\begin{align*}
\Theta := \sum_{|K|=q-1}{}'\sum_{j,k=1}^n\Big[(\partial_{z_j}u_{jK},\partial_{z_k}u_{kK})_{L^2(\Omega)}-(\partial_{\bar z_j}u_{kK},\partial_{\bar z_k}u_{jK})_{L^2(\Omega)}\Big],
\end{align*}
the summed volume contribution cancels with the cross term. What remains is precisely the boundary contribution
\begin{align*}
\Theta = \sum_{|K|=q-1}{}'\sum_{j,k=1}^n\big[B_{j,k,K}^{(1)}-B_{j,k,K}^{(2)}\big].
\end{align*}
This completes the conversion of $\Theta$ from an interior expression into boundary terms.[/guided]