[step:Show that membership is a strict total order on the successor set]
Let $x,y \in \beta$ with $x \neq y$. Since $\beta = \alpha \cup \{\alpha\}$, each of $x$ and $y$ is either an element of $\alpha$ or equal to $\alpha$.
If $x,y \in \alpha$, then the membership order on $\alpha$ is total, so either $x \in y$ or $y \in x$. If $x \in \alpha$ and $y = \alpha$, then $x \in y$. If $x = \alpha$ and $y \in \alpha$, then $y \in x$. The remaining case $x = \alpha$ and $y = \alpha$ is impossible because $x \neq y$. Thus any two distinct elements of $\beta$ are comparable by membership.
The relation is irreflexive on $\beta$. If $x \in \alpha$, then $x \notin x$ because the membership relation well-orders $\alpha$ and hence is irreflexive on $\alpha$. If $x = \alpha$, then $x \notin x$ is exactly $\alpha \notin \alpha$, proved above.
The relation is asymmetric on $\beta$. Suppose $x,y \in \beta$ and $x \in y$. If also $y \in x$, then $x \in y \in \beta$ implies $x \in \beta$ and $y \in x \in \beta$. If $x,y \in \alpha$, asymmetry of the membership order on $\alpha$ gives a contradiction. If $x \in \alpha$ and $y = \alpha$, then $y \in x$ says $\alpha \in x$; since $x \in \alpha$ and $\alpha$ is transitive, this implies $\alpha \in \alpha$, contradicting $\alpha \notin \alpha$. If $x = \alpha$ and $y \in \alpha$, then $x \in y$ says $\alpha \in y$; since $y \in \alpha$ and $\alpha$ is transitive, this again implies $\alpha \in \alpha$, a contradiction. The case $x = y = \alpha$ contradicts $\alpha \notin \alpha$.
The relation is transitive on $\beta$. Let $x,y,z \in \beta$ satisfy $x \in y$ and $y \in z$. If $z = \alpha$, then $y \in \alpha$, and transitivity of the set $\alpha$ gives $x \in \alpha = z$. If $z \in \alpha$, then transitivity of the set $\alpha$ applied to $y \in z \in \alpha$ gives $y \in \alpha$, and then transitivity of the set $\alpha$ applied to $x \in y \in \alpha$ gives $x \in \alpha$. Thus $x,y,z \in \alpha$, and transitivity of the membership order on $\alpha$ gives $x \in z$.
Therefore membership is a strict total order on $\beta$.
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