[guided]The purpose of the net is to replace infinitely many unit vectors in $\mathbb{S}_S$ by finitely many test vectors. The only point that needs justification is why control on the finite set $\mathcal{N}_S$ controls every unit vector.
Define the map $B_S: \mathbb{R}^S \to \mathbb{R}^S$ by
\begin{align*}
B_S := A_S^\top A_S - I_S,
\end{align*}
where $A_S: \mathbb{R}^S \to \mathbb{R}^n$ is the restriction $u \mapsto Au$ and $I_S$ is the identity map on $\mathbb{R}^S$. This operator is symmetric because both $A_S^\top A_S$ and $I_S$ are symmetric. For each $u \in \mathbb{S}_S$,
\begin{align*}
\langle B_Su,u\rangle = |Au|^2 - |u|^2 = |Au|^2 - 1.
\end{align*}
Thus bounding $|\langle B_Su,u\rangle|$ uniformly over the sphere is exactly the restricted isometry estimate on this support.
Set
\begin{align*}
M_S := \sup_{u \in \mathbb{S}_S} |\langle B_Su,u\rangle|,
\qquad
M_S^{\mathcal{N}} := \sup_{v \in \mathcal{N}_S} |\langle B_Sv,v\rangle|.
\end{align*}
We prove $M_S \leq 2M_S^{\mathcal{N}}$. Fix $\varepsilon > 0$ and choose $u_0 \in \mathbb{S}_S$ such that
\begin{align*}
M_S \leq |\langle B_Su_0,u_0\rangle| + \varepsilon.
\end{align*}
Because $\mathcal{N}_S$ is a $1/4$-net, there is $v_0 \in \mathcal{N}_S$ with $|u_0-v_0| \leq 1/4$. We compare the quadratic form at $u_0$ with the quadratic form at $v_0$:
\begin{align*}
\langle B_Su_0,u_0\rangle - \langle B_Sv_0,v_0\rangle
= \langle B_S(u_0-v_0),u_0\rangle + \langle B_Sv_0,u_0-v_0\rangle.
\end{align*}
Since $B_S$ is symmetric, the definition of $M_S$ controls the associated [bilinear form](/page/Bilinear%20Form) on unit vectors by polarization, and hence by homogeneity controls it on arbitrary vectors in $\mathbb{R}^S$. Therefore
\begin{align*}
|\langle B_S(u_0-v_0),u_0\rangle| \leq M_S |u_0-v_0|\,|u_0|.
\end{align*}
The same homogeneity estimate applied to $v_0$ and $u_0-v_0$ gives
\begin{align*}
|\langle B_Sv_0,u_0-v_0\rangle| \leq M_S |v_0|\,|u_0-v_0|.
\end{align*}
Using $|u_0| = |v_0| = 1$ and $|u_0-v_0| \leq 1/4$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
|\langle B_Su_0,u_0\rangle - \langle B_Sv_0,v_0\rangle|
\leq \frac{1}{2}M_S.
\end{align*}
It follows that
\begin{align*}
M_S \leq M_S^{\mathcal{N}} + \frac{1}{2}M_S + \varepsilon.
\end{align*}
Letting $\varepsilon \downarrow 0$ gives $M_S \leq 2M_S^{\mathcal{N}}$.
Consequently, if the finite net satisfies
\begin{align*}
\bigl||Av|^2 - 1\bigr| \leq \delta/2
\end{align*}
for every $v \in \mathcal{N}_S$, then $M_S^{\mathcal{N}} \leq \delta/2$, so $M_S \leq \delta$. By homogeneity, this gives
\begin{align*}
(1-\delta)|u|^2 \leq |Au|^2 \leq (1+\delta)|u|^2
\end{align*}
for every $u \in \mathbb{R}^S$, not only for unit vectors.[/guided]