[proofplan]
We first recall the finite-dimensional symmetric-matrix fact that the operator norm of $A$ is the supremum of the absolute quadratic form $|x^\top A x|$ over the unit sphere. We then approximate an arbitrary unit vector $v$ by a point $u$ in the $1/4$-net and compare the two quadratic forms. The comparison error is controlled by $\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|u-v|$ twice, giving an error at most $\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}/2$, and taking the supremum over $v$ yields the desired bound.
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[step:Identify the spectral norm with the largest absolute quadratic form]
Define the function $q : S^{d-1} \to \mathbb{R}$ by $q(x) = x^\top A x$ for every $x \in S^{d-1}$.
Since $A$ is symmetric, the real spectral theorem for finite-dimensional symmetric matrices gives an [orthonormal basis](/page/Orthonormal%20Basis) $e_1,\dots,e_d$ of $\mathbb{R}^d$ and [real numbers](/page/Real%20Numbers) $\lambda_1,\dots,\lambda_d \in \mathbb{R}$ such that $A e_i = \lambda_i e_i$ for each $i \in \{1,\dots,d\}$. For any $x \in S^{d-1}$, write
\begin{align*}
x = \sum_{i=1}^d c_i e_i,
\end{align*}
where $c_i \in \mathbb{R}$ and $\sum_{i=1}^d c_i^2 = 1$. Then
\begin{align*}
x^\top A x
= \sum_{i=1}^d \lambda_i c_i^2,
\end{align*}
so
\begin{align*}
|x^\top A x|
\le \max_{1 \le i \le d} |\lambda_i| \sum_{i=1}^d c_i^2
= \max_{1 \le i \le d} |\lambda_i|.
\end{align*}
Taking $x=e_j$ for an index $j \in \{1,\dots,d\}$ satisfying $|\lambda_j|=\max_{1 \le i \le d}|\lambda_i|$ gives equality in the supremum. Also,
\begin{align*}
\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}
= \sup_{x \in S^{d-1}} |Ax|
= \max_{1 \le i \le d} |\lambda_i|.
\end{align*}
Therefore
\begin{align*}
\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}
= \sup_{x \in S^{d-1}} |x^\top A x|.
\end{align*}
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[step:Compare the quadratic form at a unit vector with its net approximation]
Define
\begin{align*}
M := \max_{u \in N} |u^\top A u|.
\end{align*}
The maximum exists because $N$ is finite. Let $v \in S^{d-1}$. Since $N$ is a $1/4$-net of $S^{d-1}$, choose $u \in N$ such that $|u-v| \le 1/4$. Since $u,v \in S^{d-1}$, both vectors have Euclidean norm $1$.
Using bilinearity of the matrix product and symmetry only through the operator-norm estimate, we compute
\begin{align*}
v^\top A v - u^\top A u
&= (v-u)^\top A v + u^\top A(v-u).
\end{align*}
Taking absolute values and applying the [Cauchy-Schwarz inequality](/theorems/432) in $\mathbb{R}^d$ to each term gives
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v - u^\top A u| \le |v-u|\,|Av| + |u|\,|A(v-u)|.
\end{align*}
By the definition of the operator norm applied first to $v$ and then to $v-u$,
\begin{align*}
|v-u|\,|Av| + |u|\,|A(v-u)| \le |v-u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v| + |u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v-u|.
\end{align*}
Since $|u|=|v|=1$, this becomes
\begin{align*}
|v-u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v| + |u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v-u| = 2\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v-u|.
\end{align*}
Using $|v-u| \le 1/4$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v - u^\top A u| \le \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*}
Therefore
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v|
\le |u^\top A u| + \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}
\le M + \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*}
[guided]
Fix a unit vector $v \in S^{d-1}$. The role of the net is to replace $v$ by a nearby vector from the finite set $N$, where the quadratic form is one of the quantities appearing in $M$. By the $1/4$-net property, there exists $u \in N$ with $|u-v| \le 1/4$. Since $N \subset S^{d-1}$, we also have $|u|=1$, and because $v \in S^{d-1}$, we have $|v|=1$.
We compare $q(v)=v^\top A v$ and $q(u)=u^\top A u$ by adding and subtracting the mixed expression $u^\top A v$:
\begin{align*}
v^\top A v - u^\top A u = v^\top A v - u^\top A v + u^\top A v - u^\top A u.
\end{align*}
Grouping the first two terms and the last two terms gives
\begin{align*}
v^\top A v - u^\top A u = (v-u)^\top A v + u^\top A(v-u).
\end{align*}
This decomposition is useful because each term contains the small vector $v-u$. Taking absolute values and using the triangle inequality gives
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v - u^\top A u|
\le |(v-u)^\top A v| + |u^\top A(v-u)|.
\end{align*}
Apply the Cauchy-Schwarz inequality in the Euclidean [inner product](/page/Inner%20Product) on $\mathbb{R}^d$ to the first term:
\begin{align*}
|(v-u)^\top A v| \le |v-u|\,|Av|.
\end{align*}
Applying the same inequality to the second term gives
\begin{align*}
|u^\top A(v-u)| \le |u|\,|A(v-u)|.
\end{align*}
By the definition of the operator norm, $|Aw| \le \|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|w|$ for every $w \in \mathbb{R}^d$. Applying this first with $w=v$ and then with $w=v-u$ gives
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v - u^\top A u| \le |v-u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v| + |u|\,\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v-u|.
\end{align*}
Because $|u|=|v|=1$, the right-hand side is
\begin{align*}
2\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}|v-u|.
\end{align*}
Since $|u-v|\le 1/4$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v - u^\top A u| \le \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*} Finally, the [reverse triangle inequality](/theorems/2300) in the form $|a|\le |b|+|a-b|$ gives
\begin{align*}
|v^\top A v|
\le |u^\top A u| + |v^\top A v-u^\top A u|
\le M + \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*}
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[/step]
[step:Take the supremum and absorb the error term]
The preceding estimate holds for every $v \in S^{d-1}$. Taking the supremum over $v \in S^{d-1}$ gives
\begin{align*}
\sup_{v \in S^{d-1}} |v^\top A v|
\le M + \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*}
Using the identity from the first step,
\begin{align*}
\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}
\le M + \frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}.
\end{align*}
Subtracting $\frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}}$ from both sides yields
\begin{align*}
\frac{1}{2}\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}} \le M.
\end{align*}
Multiplying by $2$ gives
\begin{align*}
\|A\|_{\mathrm{op}} \le 2M
= 2\max_{u \in N}|u^\top A u|.
\end{align*}
This is the desired estimate.
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