[guided]The relation is designed to say that the point with local fibre coordinate $v$ in the $i$-th trivialization is the same point as the one with local fibre coordinate $g_{ji}(x)(v)$ in the $j$-th trivialization. To be a quotient construction, this prescription must be an equivalence relation.
Let
\begin{align*}
X := \bigsqcup_{i \in I} (U_i \times F)
\end{align*}
and write elements as triples $(x,v,i)$ with $x \in U_i$ and $v \in F$. Define
\begin{align*}
(x,v,i) \sim (y,w,j)
\end{align*}
precisely when $x=y \in U_i \cap U_j$ and
\begin{align*}
w = g_{ji}(x)(v).
\end{align*}
Reflexivity uses the identity transition function. If $(x,v,i) \in X$, then $x \in U_i$, and the hypothesis gives $g_{ii}(x)=\operatorname{id}_F$. Hence
\begin{align*}
g_{ii}(x)(v)=v,
\end{align*}
so $(x,v,i)\sim (x,v,i)$.
For symmetry, assume $(x,v,i)\sim (x,w,j)$. This means
\begin{align*}
w=g_{ji}(x)(v).
\end{align*}
We need to recover $v$ from $w$ using the reverse transition map. The cocycle identity applied on $U_i \cap U_j$ with indices $(i,j,i)$ gives
\begin{align*}
g_{ij}(x)\circ g_{ji}(x)=g_{ii}(x)=\operatorname{id}_F.
\end{align*}
Applying both sides to $v$ yields
\begin{align*}
g_{ij}(x)(w)
=
g_{ij}(x)(g_{ji}(x)(v))
=
v.
\end{align*}
This is exactly the condition that $(x,w,j)\sim (x,v,i)$.
For transitivity, assume
\begin{align*}
(x,v,i)\sim (x,w,j),
\qquad
(x,w,j)\sim (x,z,k).
\end{align*}
By definition of the relation, $w = g_{ji}(x)(v)$ and $z = g_{kj}(x)(w)$. Substituting the first equality into the second gives
\begin{align*}
z=g_{kj}(x)(g_{ji}(x)(v)).
\end{align*}
The cocycle identity on $U_i\cap U_j\cap U_k$, with indices $(k,j,i)$, says
\begin{align*}
g_{kj}(x)\circ g_{ji}(x)=g_{ki}(x).
\end{align*}
Therefore
\begin{align*}
z=g_{ki}(x)(v),
\end{align*}
which is exactly the condition $(x,v,i)\sim (x,z,k)$. Thus the relation is reflexive, symmetric, and transitive.[/guided]