[guided]We must prove that the weak limit $w$ of the approximate derivatives is not merely an unrelated element of $L^2(0,T;V^*)$, but is exactly the weak time derivative of the weak limit $u$. The definition of weak time derivative is tested against a vector in the spatial space and a smooth compactly supported scalar function in time. Fix $v\in V$ and $\eta\in C_c^\infty(0,T)$, and define
\begin{align*}
\Phi_{v,\eta}:(0,T)\to V
\end{align*}
by
\begin{align*}
\Phi_{v,\eta}(t)=\eta(t)v.
\end{align*}
Because $\eta$ is smooth with compact support and $v\in V$, this map belongs to $L^2(0,T;V)$.
For each $m$, the assertion that $u_m'$ is the weak time derivative of $u_m$ means
\begin{align*}
\int_0^{\mathsf T} u_m'(t)(v)\eta(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t)=-\int_0^{\mathsf T} (u_m(t),v)_H\eta'(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t).
\end{align*}
The left-hand side is the value of the bounded linear functional on $L^2(0,T;V^*)$ determined by $\Phi_{v,\eta}$. Since $u_m'\rightharpoonup w$ in $L^2(0,T;V^*)$, it converges to
\begin{align*}
\int_0^{\mathsf T} w(t)(v)\eta(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t).
\end{align*}
For the right-hand side, the continuous embedding $V\hookrightarrow H$ gives a constant $C_{VH}>0$ such that $\|z\|_H\le C_{VH}\|z\|_V$ for every $z\in V$. Hence the map $z\mapsto (z,v)_H$ is bounded on $V$, since
\begin{align*}
|(z,v)_H|\le \|z\|_H\|v\|_H\le C_{VH}\|v\|_H\|z\|_V.
\end{align*}
Thus $z\mapsto -\int_0^{\mathsf T} (z(t),v)_H\eta'(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t)$ is a bounded linear functional on $L^2(0,T;V)$. The weak convergence $u_m\rightharpoonup u$ in $L^2(0,T;V)$ therefore gives
\begin{align*}
-\int_0^{\mathsf T} (u_m(t),v)_H\eta'(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t)\to -\int_0^{\mathsf T} (u(t),v)_H\eta'(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t).
\end{align*}
Passing to the limit in the weak derivative identity yields
\begin{align*}
\int_0^{\mathsf T} w(t)(v)\eta(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t)=-\int_0^{\mathsf T} (u(t),v)_H\eta'(t)\,d\mathcal L^1(t).
\end{align*}
This holds for every $v\in V$ and every $\eta\in C_c^\infty(0,T)$, which is precisely the definition that $w$ is the weak time derivative of $u$. Therefore $w=u'$ in $L^2(0,T;V^*)$.[/guided]