[guided]We prove the one-derivative formula carefully because this is where both the sign convention and the absence of boundary terms enter. Fix $j \in \{1,\dots,n\}$, fix $\xi \in \mathbb{R}^n$, and let
\begin{align*}
v:\mathbb{R}^n \to \mathbb{C}
\end{align*}
be a Schwartz function. The goal is to prove
\begin{align*}
\widehat{\partial_{x_j}v}(\xi)=i\xi_j\hat{v}(\xi).
\end{align*}
Why does the factor have sign $+i\xi_j$? The Fourier transform uses the exponential $e^{-i\xi\cdot x}$. When [integration by parts](/theorems/2098) moves $\partial_{x_j}$ from $v$ onto this exponential, the derivative produces $-i\xi_j e^{-i\xi\cdot x}$, and the minus sign from integration by parts changes this to $+i\xi_j$.
To justify the integration by parts on the unbounded domain, we first work on a bounded cube. For $R>0$, set
\begin{align*}
Q_R:=(-R,R)^n.
\end{align*}
Let
\begin{align*}
y:=(x_1,\dots,x_{j-1},x_{j+1},\dots,x_n)\in\mathbb{R}^{n-1}
\end{align*}
denote all variables except $x_j$. For $t\in\mathbb{R}$, define
\begin{align*}
\iota_t:\mathbb{R}^{n-1}\to\mathbb{R}^n, \qquad \iota_t(y):=(x_1,\dots,x_{j-1},t,x_{j+1},\dots,x_n).
\end{align*}
This map inserts the value $t$ into the $j$-th coordinate.
Before integrating by parts, we justify treating the other variables as parameters. The functions $v$ and $\partial_{x_j}v$ are continuous, and the exponential factor $x\mapsto e^{-i\xi\cdot x}$ is continuous and bounded. Hence the products integrated below are integrable on the bounded cube $Q_R$. Fubini's theorem allows the $\mathcal{L}^n$ integral over $Q_R$ to be written as an iterated integral over $(-R,R)^{n-1}$ with respect to $\mathcal{L}^{n-1}$ and over $(-R,R)$ with respect to $\mathcal{L}^1$.
On $Q_R$, ordinary one-dimensional integration by parts in the variable $x_j$, with all other variables held fixed, gives
\begin{align*}
\int_{Q_R}\partial_{x_j}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x)=B_R+i\xi_j\int_{Q_R}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x),
\end{align*}
where
\begin{align*}
B_R:=\int_{(-R,R)^{n-1}}v(\iota_R(y))e^{-i\xi\cdot \iota_R(y)}\,d\mathcal{L}^{n-1}(y)-\int_{(-R,R)^{n-1}}v(\iota_{-R}(y))e^{-i\xi\cdot \iota_{-R}(y)}\,d\mathcal{L}^{n-1}(y).
\end{align*}
The term $B_R$ is precisely the contribution from the two faces of the cube where $x_j=R$ and $x_j=-R$.
Now we prove that this boundary contribution disappears as $R\to\infty$. Choose an integer $N>n$. Because $v$ is a Schwartz function, the quantity
\begin{align*}
C_N:=\sup_{x\in\mathbb{R}^n}(1+|x|)^N|v(x)|
\end{align*}
is finite. Thus, for every $t\in\mathbb{R}$ and $y\in\mathbb{R}^{n-1}$,
\begin{align*}
|v(\iota_t(y))| \le C_N(1+|\iota_t(y)|)^{-N}.
\end{align*}
Since $|\iota_t(y)|=(|t|^2+|y|^2)^{1/2}$, we obtain
\begin{align*}
|v(\iota_t(y))| \le C_N(1+(|t|^2+|y|^2)^{1/2})^{-N}.
\end{align*}
Therefore the absolute value of the face integral at $t=R$ is bounded by
\begin{align*}
C_N\int_{\mathbb{R}^{n-1}}(1+(R^2+|y|^2)^{1/2})^{-N}\,d\mathcal{L}^{n-1}(y).
\end{align*}
The same bound applies to the face at $t=-R$. For each fixed $y$, the integrand tends to $0$ as $R\to\infty$. It is also bounded by $(1+|y|)^{-N}$, which is integrable over $\mathbb{R}^{n-1}$ because $N>n-1$. Hence dominated convergence applies and both face integrals tend to $0$. Thus $B_R\to 0$.
Finally, since $v$ and $\partial_{x_j}v$ are Schwartz functions, they are integrable on $\mathbb{R}^n$. Hence
\begin{align*}
\int_{Q_R}\partial_{x_j}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x)\to \int_{\mathbb{R}^n}\partial_{x_j}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x)
\end{align*}
and
\begin{align*}
\int_{Q_R}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x)\to \int_{\mathbb{R}^n}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x).
\end{align*}
Passing to the limit in the cube identity gives
\begin{align*}
\int_{\mathbb{R}^n}\partial_{x_j}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x)=i\xi_j\int_{\mathbb{R}^n}v(x)e^{-i\xi\cdot x}\,d\mathcal{L}^n(x).
\end{align*}
Multiplication by the normalization factor $(2\pi)^{-n/2}$ gives the desired Fourier identity:
\begin{align*}
\widehat{\partial_{x_j}v}(\xi)=i\xi_j\hat{v}(\xi).
\end{align*}[/guided]