[guided]The left centralizer has already produced the operator $T$. The compatibility identity is what forces the right centralizer to use the same operator, and the safest way to extract vectors from the rank-one identity is to evaluate at a vector whose inner product with the chosen second vector is nonzero.
Fix $\alpha,\beta\in H$. If $\alpha=0$, then $\theta_{\alpha,\beta}=0$, so $R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})=0=\theta_{\alpha,T^*\beta}$ by linearity of $R$. Assume $\alpha\ne 0$. Choose a nonzero vector $\zeta_0\in H$. For every $\xi\in H$, apply the compatibility identity $AL(B)=R(A)B$ with $A=\theta_{\alpha,\beta}$ and $B=\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0}$:
\begin{align*}
\theta_{\alpha,\beta}L(\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0})
=
R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0}.
\end{align*}
The operator $T$ was defined by $T\xi=L(\theta_{\xi,\eta})\eta$, and the preceding left-centralizer computation proves, for every $u,v\in H$, that $L(\theta_{u,v})=\theta_{Tu,v}$. Applying this with $u=\xi$ and $v=\zeta_0$ gives $L(\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0})=\theta_{T\xi,\zeta_0}$. Therefore
\begin{align*}
R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0}
=
\theta_{\alpha,\beta}\theta_{T\xi,\zeta_0}
=
(T\xi,\beta)_H\theta_{\alpha,\zeta_0}.
\end{align*}
Now choose $h_0\in H$ with $(h_0,\zeta_0)_H\ne 0$; taking $h_0=\zeta_0$ works because $\zeta_0\ne 0$. Evaluating the operator identity at $h_0$ gives
\begin{align*}
R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\theta_{\xi,\zeta_0}h_0
=
(T\xi,\beta)_H\theta_{\alpha,\zeta_0}h_0.
\end{align*}
Using the definition of the rank-one operator on both sides,
\begin{align*}
(h_0,\zeta_0)_H R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\xi
=
(T\xi,\beta)_H(h_0,\zeta_0)_H\alpha.
\end{align*}
The scalar $(h_0,\zeta_0)_H$ is nonzero, so cancellation is valid and yields
\begin{align*}
R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\xi=(T\xi,\beta)_H\alpha.
\end{align*}
Because $T^*$ is the Hilbert-space adjoint of $T$ and the inner product is linear in the first variable,
\begin{align*}
(T\xi,\beta)_H=(\xi,T^*\beta)_H.
\end{align*}
Thus
\begin{align*}
R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})\xi=(\xi,T^*\beta)_H\alpha=\theta_{\alpha,T^*\beta}\xi
\end{align*}
for every $\xi\in H$. Therefore $R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})=\theta_{\alpha,T^*\beta}$. Finally, for every $h\in H$,
\begin{align*}
\theta_{\alpha,\beta}Th=(Th,\beta)_H\alpha=(h,T^*\beta)_H\alpha=\theta_{\alpha,T^*\beta}h,
\end{align*}
so $R(\theta_{\alpha,\beta})=\theta_{\alpha,\beta}T$.[/guided]