[guided]We want strong approximation of $T$ by elements of $A$ on the finite set $\{\xi_1,\dots,\xi_n\}$. The strong operator topology is exactly the topology of pointwise norm convergence on $H$, so a basic strong neighbourhood of $T$ asks for an operator $a\in A$ with $a\xi_r$ close to $T\xi_r$ for finitely many prescribed vectors.
To package all these inequalities at once, we work in the Hilbert space $H^{\oplus n}$. This space consists of tuples $(\eta_1,\dots,\eta_n)$ with $\eta_r\in H$, and its inner product is
\begin{align*}
((\eta_1,\dots,\eta_n),(\zeta_1,\dots,\zeta_n))_{H^{\oplus n}}=\sum_{r=1}^{n}(\eta_r,\zeta_r)_H.
\end{align*}
For each $a\in A$, the tuple $(a\xi_1,\dots,a\xi_n)$ records how $a$ acts on the chosen finite set of vectors. Define
\begin{align*}
E=\{(a\xi_1,\dots,a\xi_n):a\in A\}\subseteq H^{\oplus n}.
\end{align*}
Because $A$ is closed under addition and scalar multiplication, $E$ is a linear subspace of $H^{\oplus n}$. Let
\begin{align*}
K=\overline{E}^{\|\cdot\|_{H^{\oplus n}}}
\end{align*}
be its norm closure.
The target tuple is $(T\xi_1,\dots,T\xi_n)$. If we prove
\begin{align*}
(T\xi_1,\dots,T\xi_n)\in K,
\end{align*}
then by the definition of norm closure there exists $a\in A$ with
\begin{align*}
\|(a\xi_1,\dots,a\xi_n)-(T\xi_1,\dots,T\xi_n)\|_{H^{\oplus n}}<\varepsilon.
\end{align*}
Since the direct-sum norm dominates each coordinate norm, this gives
\begin{align*}
\|a\xi_r-T\xi_r\|_H<\varepsilon
\end{align*}
for every $r\in\{1,\dots,n\}$. Thus membership of the target tuple in $K$ is precisely the finite-vector strong approximation we need.[/guided]