[guided]The upper tail coefficient is not the same as the pointwise conditional probability $\mathbb{P}(T_2>x\mid T_1=x)$; it is the conditional probability given the whole event $\{T_1>x\}$. We therefore introduce the scaled exceedance
\begin{align*}
R_x := \frac{T_1}{x}
\end{align*}
as a random variable under the conditional probability measure $\mathbb{P}(\,\cdot\,\mid T_1>x)$.
First we justify the limiting distribution of $R_x$. Let $\mathcal{L}^1$ denote one-dimensional Lebesgue measure on $\mathbb{R}$. The Student $t_\nu$ density has the asymptotic form
\begin{align*}
f_\nu(t)
&=
\frac{\Gamma\left(\frac{\nu+1}{2}\right)}
{\Gamma\left(\frac{\nu}{2}\right)\sqrt{\nu\pi}}
\left(1+\frac{t^2}{\nu}\right)^{-(\nu+1)/2}
\sim
A_\nu t^{-\nu-1}
\end{align*}
as $t\to\infty$, where
\begin{align*}
A_\nu
:=
\frac{\Gamma\left(\frac{\nu+1}{2}\right)}
{\Gamma\left(\frac{\nu}{2}\right)\sqrt{\nu\pi}}
\nu^{(\nu+1)/2}.
\end{align*}
We now integrate this tail asymptotic directly. Since
\begin{align*}
\frac{f_\nu(t)}{A_\nu t^{-\nu-1}}\to1,
\end{align*}
for every $\varepsilon\in(0,1)$ there exists $M_\varepsilon>0$ such that, whenever $t\geq M_\varepsilon$,
\begin{align*}
(1-\varepsilon)A_\nu t^{-\nu-1}
\leq
f_\nu(t)
\leq
(1+\varepsilon)A_\nu t^{-\nu-1}.
\end{align*}
For $x\geq M_\varepsilon$, integrating over $[x,\infty)$ with respect to $\mathcal{L}^1$ gives
\begin{align*}
(1-\varepsilon)\frac{A_\nu}{\nu}x^{-\nu}
\leq
\mathbb{P}(T_1>x)
=
\int_x^\infty f_\nu(t)\,d\mathcal{L}^1(t)
\leq
(1+\varepsilon)\frac{A_\nu}{\nu}x^{-\nu}.
\end{align*}
Letting $\varepsilon\downarrow0$ proves
\begin{align*}
\mathbb{P}(T_1>x)
\sim
\frac{A_\nu}{\nu}x^{-\nu}.
\end{align*}
Therefore, for each $z\geq1$,
\begin{align*}
\lim_{x\to\infty}
\mathbb{P}(R_x>z)
&=
\lim_{x\to\infty}
\frac{\mathbb{P}(T_1>xz)}{\mathbb{P}(T_1>x)}
=
z^{-\nu}.
\end{align*}
This is exactly the survival function of a Pareto random variable $R$ supported on $[1,\infty)$ with density
\begin{align*}
p_R:(1,\infty)&\to(0,\infty)\\
z&\mapsto \nu z^{-\nu-1}.
\end{align*}
Thus $R_x\Rightarrow R$.
Now we average the conditional Student law over the exceedance $R_x$. Define
\begin{align*}
g_x:[1,\infty)&\to[0,1]\\
z&\mapsto
1-
F_{\nu+1}\left(
\frac{x-rxz}
{\sqrt{\frac{(\nu+x^2z^2)(1-r^2)}{\nu+1}}}
\right).
\end{align*}
The previous step shows that $g_x(z)$ is precisely $\mathbb{P}(T_2>x\mid T_1=xz)$. Hence conditioning on $T_1$ gives
\begin{align*}
\mathbb{P}(T_2>x\mid T_1>x)
=
\mathbb{E}\left[g_x(R_x)\mid T_1>x\right].
\end{align*}
For fixed $z\geq1$,
\begin{align*}
\frac{x-rxz}
{\sqrt{\frac{(\nu+x^2z^2)(1-r^2)}{\nu+1}}}
&=
\frac{1-rz}
{\sqrt{\left(\frac{\nu}{x^2}+z^2\right)\frac{1-r^2}{\nu+1}}}\\
&\longrightarrow
\sqrt{\nu+1}\,
\frac{1-rz}{z\sqrt{1-r^2}}.
\end{align*}
To justify passing this convergence through the conditional expectation, compactify $[1,\infty)$ by adding the point $\infty$. The limiting function
\begin{align*}
g:[1,\infty]&\to[0,1]\\
z&\mapsto
1-
F_{\nu+1}\left(
\sqrt{\nu+1}\,
\frac{1-rz}{z\sqrt{1-r^2}}
\right),\qquad z<\infty,\\
\infty&\mapsto
1-F_{\nu+1}\left(-r\sqrt{\frac{\nu+1}{1-r^2}}\right)
\end{align*}
is continuous, and the displayed formula for the argument shows $g_x\to g$ uniformly on this compactified half-line. We now justify the limit of the conditional expectations. The uniform convergence gives
\begin{align*}
\left|
\mathbb{E}\left[g_x(R_x)\mid T_1>x\right]
-
\mathbb{E}\left[g(R_x)\mid T_1>x\right]
\right|
\leq
\sup_{z\in[1,\infty]}|g_x(z)-g(z)|\to0.
\end{align*}
Since $g$ is bounded and continuous on the compactified half-line, the weak convergence $R_x\Rightarrow R$ gives
\begin{align*}
\mathbb{E}\left[g(R_x)\mid T_1>x\right]\to\mathbb{E}[g(R)].
\end{align*}
Combining these two limits, we obtain
\begin{align*}
\lambda_U
&=
\int_1^\infty
\left[
1-
F_{\nu+1}\left(
\sqrt{\nu+1}\,
\frac{1-rz}{z\sqrt{1-r^2}}
\right)
\right]
\nu z^{-\nu-1}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(z).
\end{align*}
We now evaluate the integral rather than quoting it. Put
\begin{align*}
m&:=\nu+1, &
q&:=\sqrt{\frac{m(1-r)}{1+r}}, &
a&:=\frac{\sqrt{m}}{\sqrt{1-r^2}},
\end{align*}
let $F_m:\mathbb{R}\to(0,1)$ denote the Student $t_m$ distribution function, and let $f_m:\mathbb{R}\to(0,\infty)$ denote the Student $t_m$ density. Use the substitution $y=1/z$. Then $z=1/y$, the domain $z\in[1,\infty)$ becomes $y\in(0,1]$, and
\begin{align*}
\nu z^{-\nu-1}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(z)
=
-\nu y^{\nu-1}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y).
\end{align*}
Thus the integral equals
\begin{align*}
I
&:=
\nu\int_0^1
\left[1-F_m\left(a(y-r)\right)
\right]
y^{\nu-1}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y).
\end{align*}
Integrating by parts with $u(y)=1-F_m(a(y-r))$ and $dv=\nu y^{\nu-1}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y)$ yields
\begin{align*}
I
&=
1-F_m(q)
+
a\int_0^1 y^\nu f_m(a(y-r))\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y),
\end{align*}
because $a(1-r)=q$ and $y^\nu u(y)$ vanishes at $y=0$.
It remains to identify the last integral as the same Student tail. Write
\begin{align*}
c_m
:=
\frac{\Gamma\left(\frac{m+1}{2}\right)}
{\Gamma\left(\frac{m}{2}\right)\sqrt{m\pi}},
\end{align*}
so that
\begin{align*}
f_m(s)=c_m\left(1+\frac{s^2}{m}\right)^{-(m+1)/2}.
\end{align*}
Since $m=\nu+1$,
\begin{align*}
a\int_0^1 y^\nu f_m(a(y-r))\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y)
&=
\sqrt{m}\,c_m(1-r^2)^{(\nu+1)/2}
\int_0^1
\frac{y^\nu}{(y^2-2ry+1)^{(\nu+2)/2}}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y).
\end{align*}
Now compute the tail $1-F_m(q)$ directly. With $s=a(t-r)$, the lower endpoint $s=q$ corresponds to $t=1$, and
\begin{align*}
1-F_m(q)
&=
\int_q^\infty f_m(s)\,d\mathcal{L}^1(s)\\
&=
\sqrt{m}\,c_m(1-r^2)^{(\nu+1)/2}
\int_1^\infty
\frac{1}{(t^2-2rt+1)^{(\nu+2)/2}}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(t).
\end{align*}
Finally substitute $t=1/y$. Then $d\mathcal{L}^1(t)=-y^{-2}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y)$, the domain $t\in[1,\infty)$ becomes $y\in(0,1]$, and
\begin{align*}
t^2-2rt+1
=
\frac{y^2-2ry+1}{y^2}.
\end{align*}
Therefore
\begin{align*}
1-F_m(q)
&=
\sqrt{m}\,c_m(1-r^2)^{(\nu+1)/2}
\int_0^1
\frac{y^\nu}{(y^2-2ry+1)^{(\nu+2)/2}}\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y).
\end{align*}
This proves
\begin{align*}
a\int_0^1 y^\nu f_m(a(y-r))\,d\mathcal{L}^1(y)
=
1-F_m(q).
\end{align*}
Hence
\begin{align*}
I=2(1-F_m(q)).
\end{align*}
The Student $t_m$ density is even, so its distribution function satisfies $1-F_m(q)=F_m(-q)$. Returning to $m=\nu+1$ gives
\begin{align*}
\lambda_U
=
2F_{\nu+1}\left(
-\sqrt{\frac{(\nu+1)(1-r)}{1+r}}
\right).
\end{align*}[/guided]